Fill your cup mumma!

As a mumma, it’s so important to fill your own cup.

The moment we become a mother, we stop being the centre of our own universe. This new tiny person is now the most important human being in the world and is our new centre. 

Our needs and wants become insignificant and we would give our very last breath if we had to, just to know they are ok.

The purest love there is.

Having a child is quite literally the making of a mother.

However… we all know those wise words, that you must always put your own oxygen mask on first, before helping another, even a child. Because quite simply, if we are unconscious, we are no help to anyone else.

It may seem very obvious but it’s easy to forget this in every day life. After all normal mum life isn’t quite as dramatic as putting on an oxygen mask on a plane! But we CAN NOT POUR FROM AN EMPTY CUP! In order to be the best (or simply just a happy version) of ourselves, we need to feel a little filled up.

If we are running on empty then eventually our engines will break down. (I hope you’re here for the cheesy metaphors because that’s what I’m alllll about haha!)

Yes OF COURSE it is so so important we fill our children’s cups also, they need to feel loved and secure, happy and seen, that’s a no brainier. We spend our days worrying we haven’t done enough of this! But the same goes for us as parents.

There have been days where I haven’t had a drink of water for hours, or been to the toilet, holding in my pee because I’ve been too busy sorting out the kids and putting their needs first. It’s not ok to treat ourselves this way, having our very BASIC needs met is not a luxury.

What ever self care looks like for you, please just make sure your basic needs are being met first of all. Showers, toilet breaks, water & decent meals are NOT luxuries. Look after yourself the same way you do your children.

And then…we can start to fill that cup! Schedule in some cup filling time. Whilst your bubba is napping have a hot cup of tea and watch Netflix once a week, instead of doing the chores. Read a book on a Sunday evening (my current fave read is Ordinary People by Diana Evans!) Book in that haircut you’ve been talking about for over a year (yes, guilty!!) Get out in nature or spend some time doing the thing that lights you up!

You might just find your cup is overflowing, but anything other than empty is the aim. When you’re starting to feel there’s nothing left to pour, remember to refuel!

Everyone will benefit from a happy mummy xx

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